“When you look at someone through rose colored glasses, all the red flags just look like flags.”
Have you ever found yourself often thinking why you’re with a particular person even when you know they’re not worth your time or effort but you went with it anyway?
It is partly because everyone has a need to love and be loved. It is an innate need. People will do anything for love – marry the wrong person because of fear of loneliness, get into immorality, put up with physical, verbal and mental abuse, substance abuse, join fraternity or a gang just to be loved.
Although the need for love is experienced all through human lifetime but like all behaviors, the learning process starts as soon as a child is born. A newborn responds warmly to her mother’s cuddles and soft loving whispers with smiles and restful sleep whereas a child that is often ignored grows up to become emotionally maladjusted if care is not taken early enough.
At adolescence, this need escalates and because they are experiencing diverse growth spurts at this time, young adults experiment with romantic relationships that oftentimes jeopardizes their emotional stability as an adult. Because they are yet to come to full grasp about their identity, young adults and some immature adults alike, may sometimes prematurely invest in relationships that are unworthy of their time or effort. Here are a few examples of premature emotional investment in unhealthy relationships:
- You sacrifice your authentic self when they wouldn’t.
- You often find yourself being emotionally exhausted with them when they wouldn’t
- You tolerate their disrespectful behavior even when they fail to see it
- You can’t freely talk about your feelings or discuss your future.
When these behaviors predominate a romantic relationship, that relationship is unhealthy and is heading towards wreckage. No one should endure an abusive or toxic relationship. It will stifle and destroy you. If anyone finds himself or herself in such a relationship, they should seek help. At Connect Coaching Center, such help is available. We shall walk alongside you to uncover the ‘why’ of such a situation and help you discover your innate ability to be healed, restored and find love in a healthy way.
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